Be honest and if your going to judge me dont answer got it...?

ah ok i see your problem. there is NOTHING wrong with not wanting to be with someone with kids. that is 100% ok. to me Joe seems like the one to go with. I am against james because you said he does things you do not enjoy. you said joe spoils you when he wants and not when you demand. that can be a good thing. i think james would have been ok if he was in a different situation but for now go with joe.